Finding the woman of your dreams has never been easy, but things have gotten even harder with the recent global pandemic. A new study indicates that post-pandemic, single-and-looking adults are finding dating more challenging than ever before.
Today, I’m going to talk about how the pandemic has changed dating, the problems single guys like you might be facing in this climate, and ultimately what you can do about it. My goal is to be your wingman, helping you find your special person. Let’s dive in!
The Challenges of Dating Today
In a survey by Pew Research, 63% of single-and-looking adults say they think dating has gotten even harder since the COVID-19 pandemic. Not only that but the vast majority of these adults — 7 out of 10! — say their dating lives are not going well.
The good news is that if you have been feeling this struggle, you’re clearly not alone. There is an obvious issue when it comes to building lasting relationships today.
Adding to the complexities the pandemic delivered to the dating scene is that the majority of dating shifted to online platforms. Swiping right and swiping left, sending hundreds of messages out with no reply, and being ghosted regularly have all become dating norms for many single guys today.
Look, the pandemic may have made dating more difficult, but that’s why I’m here to help. Let’s talk about what you can do differently to capture the attention of women, even in this challenging landscape.
What You Can Do Differently
The pandemic pushed a lot of people toward online dating. At the same time, ask almost any woman how she feels about online dating, and you’ll probably hear her vent about her frustrations. Most women state they are inundated with messages on dating apps to the point of feeling overwhelmed and incapable of connecting. On the flip side of this equation are men, who are frustrated at the lack of responses they are getting.
Let’s think about that for a minute. Women are getting an influx of similar-sounding messages, which all become white noise. Men are continuing to send out the same bland or unengaging messages and are being ignored.
What’s a guy to do? I’m going to share three simple steps that will help you navigate online dating, even in the post-pandemic landscape of frustrations.
1. Read Her Profile
It sounds simple, but it is worth repeating: Read her profile. Don’t simply scan through her photos and send a message. Take the time to read the words she wrote about herself.
While you are reading through her profile, pay attention to what you are reading. Look for details she has shared about herself. Maybe she has talked about her favorite hobby or her pet. As you learn more about her, look for areas of commonality or something that is interesting to you about her.
Now, you’re ready to send your first message.
2. Write Something About Her
As you write your first message, scrap anything that talks about how beautiful she is or how hot you think her body is. Instead, focus on something you learned about her from her profile.
Again, don’t make this about her looks in any way. This should be a message that quickly shows you took the time to read what she wrote and that you are taking an interest in what she is sharing about herself.
For example, if she mentions she loves hiking in her profile, you could send a message saying, “Hey! I saw in your profile that you love hiking. I’m a hiking enthusiast too and enjoy the abundance of trails in the area.”
Why does this work? Women receive a constant influx of messages commenting on their looks. This shows zero effort on the part of the men messaging these women. Women brush over these messages with little thought. When you take the time to actually show you know something about a woman, she’ll see your message as far more intriguing.
3. Let Her Know You Are Interested in Learning More About Her
Finally, wrap up your message by letting her know that you are interested in learning more about her. Expressing this interest reinforces that you want to take the time to understand who she is and that you’re not just there to hit on her or simply DTF.
Let’s take our example above, where we discussed her love of hiking. You could close out that message by adding a line that says, “I’d love to get to know you more and hear about your hiking adventures.”
This helps show that you are a good communicator. You listen well, you pay attention, and you remember important details — all incredibly important things to women.
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